Missing is a “contranym” one word with two opposite meanings. Missing means to be either connected or disconnected. To miss people means to love them…..to be partial to them…incomplete without them…and with that…missing the part that makes you whole.
Missing someone….or something is different for every individual in many different ways…..at many different times. That longing and yearning can happen when you least expect it. Depending upon the connection and circumstances with that individual is how you will deal with the missing of that person. Allow me to break it down for you…in my opinion.
A Pet….Is Not Just A Pet
A pet of any kind…may not be a “someone”…..but to so many…..myself included….consider their pet a family member. The saying goes….”All Dogs Go To Heaven”……well, I beg to differ……”All Pets Go To Heaven.” The hurt and heartbreak is there and it’s real. Until you have that pet by your side….well….you will never get it. It’s the presence of that warm body…relying one-hundred percent on you to be there for them. The comfort that they bring is overwhelming…..God really knew what he was doing when he brought that special pet into our lives. Sadly when they leave our side….it’s a hurt like no other…..I know this….because….I’ve lived this. Our pets…..a true gift from God.
Friends Forever
I have been so blessed in my life to have made so many friends throughout my lifetime. People come and go during our lifetime…for reasons we may never even know….and we become friends to so many others….because it is meant to be for one reason or another. I miss all of my friends for so many different reasons….no two friends are ever alike….each as individual as their personality. When they touch our lives….and us theirs….that when we are no longer together…..there is always an emptiness…until we are together again..it’s what bonds us and keeps the friendships close to our heart.
When You Lose Someone
November 22, 2001….my life as I knew it turned completely upside down. My step-father…”Papa Joe” left this world after a one year battle with Melanoma…Cancer. Along with our mom(she is still with us today)…together they were the heart and soul of our family….the glue that held us all together. He was one….burly bear of a man, that I loved getting my hugs from. He could make you laugh with his corny jokes that absolutely made no sense. He would listen when we were happy….sad…..or even mad…. and for me when I was heartbroken. He was there for me during a divorce that took the wind out of my sails….and was my knight in shining armour….when I needed him the most…..he was more than a step-dad…he took in 5 step-kids, and called them his own. Simply put…he was dad.
It’s amazing to me how twenty years has gone by in a flash…..the sadness of his loss is no longer unbearable…..but the wanting of his presence is always there. I talk to him often….along with my grandma and grandpa….that follwed in his “crossing-over” footsteps….a few months after his departure. I know that one day…we will all be together again…but for now….I cherish the moments….the laughs and the memories….of all the times that we shared….this is how I feel when I miss them all.
Papa Joe
We Are All Alike
Never kid yourself….we are all alike in more ways than one. Because, when we miss someone….whether they have passed on…..or just miles away…..we just really miss them. The reality of the desire to have someone with us can hit you when you least expect it….but learning to live with it….handle the “missing” need. Can sometimes become overwhleming. But….for the most part…we allow time to work it’s magic. Oh….don’t get me wrong….it’s never easy…..because when we miss someone….we really do miss them. For that reason alone….we are all alike.
When I miss someone….for me…this is how I feel. For my loved ones that are no longer here….I miss them so much and I know that they know this too…..because their presence is with me everyday….and for that I take comfort. For those that are….what seems like a million miles away….you are in my heart…every day…of every night. Our paths will cross before you know it…..but until then always know….that I miss you more.
–Brenda
XO
